I feel like I’ve done many adulting type things this week for which I am extremely proud. I’ve said YES to a networking event for my job (I hate those with a passion), I said NO to biscuits because I was very full and didn’t need them (I knooowwww …. very adult), stayed on top of the news and I’ve also scheduled some events I would never have attended in the past.
Emotionally I’m continuing to navigate negative feelings even on days when everything in my being screams *HIDE MOTHERFUCKER*.
For me, getting older means getting sexier, cementing my individuality, finding and hopefully fulfilling my purpose. It also means speaking my mind and holding steadfast to things I deem true.
More important than being an AILF (Auntie I’d like to bleep) is the need to continually acknowledge that the bad days are part of life. We would not be complex wonderful beings if we didn’t have to navigate complex feelings.
This weekend the Afrobeats Karaoketeam celebrated their two-year anniversary with a roof top all dayer party. If there’s good vibes, good people, and good music then you know I’m there- and this was certainly a good vibe, good times type of affair. If you interested in belting out your favourite Wiz Kid and Sarkodie tunes every other Thursday, then you can catch the Afrobeats Karaoke crew at ‘The Lighthouse’ EC2A 3AY!
I had a lovely weekend doing all the things I love, including hunting down new grub spots and of course reflecting. This weekend I reflected on the glow ups and the glow downs.
Your ‘glow up’ could be physical, it could be spiritual it could manifest itself in the way that you deal with pain or the way that you communicate. Through the peaks and troughs, I’ve come to appreciate my various glow ups.
If you’ve seen what my eyebrows look like AFTER I’ve ‘done’ them, then it’s easy to surmise that I’m not surgeon or doctor- precision just isn’t my forte. Needless to say, if you do suffer with serious skin problems don’t take these tips as gospel, but of course if these do end up working for you please shout it from the roof tops, tell them Helen’s got the juice. Hold your breath no more here are my top tips for achieving clearer skin.
MIND YOUR BUSINESS:
I know girl, minding my business can be tough for me too. We live in a nosy world, that coupled with the fact that some of us love to overshare it can be easy to assume that everyone’s business is YOUR business. I’ve found that minding my own business means I go to bed earlier, I’m not constantly scrolling through Instagram trying to see if Ade (fictional, I assure you) still has a picture up with his baby mama from 98 weeks ago. The bonus to that is I sleep well and my cells rejuvenate themselves. Notice how a night of intense gossiping can leave you looking tired and your skin feeling ashy and dull? Yea you don’t want that. Switch you phone off and watch your skin flourish.
After a few days of not feeling quite like myself, I’m starting to feel good again. I know what my unhappy triggers are and as much as I try and stay in my ‘happy bubble’ life doesn’t always quite work like that.
I noticed my anxiety taking a physical toll on me about 4 years ago when I would have several panic attacks night after night. I had internalised so much worry and emotional trauma, my body could not cope. One of the many ways I would try to feel better if I was feeling particularly anxious was to drink excessively on nights out, or eat a ton of food I didn’t even enjoy.
For a lot of people, I think this is quite a common way of dealing with stress and anxiety- you almost punish yourself.
The brief moments of pleasure would soon give way to thoughts of shame and worthlessness and when I eventually felt like myself again I would vow never to handle my emotions so negatively. This would of course not be the case because something would happen in my life and I would be right back to partying like a Rockstar at the weekend and then suffering from some type of alcohol induced brain fog or feelings of shame after binge.
I know that some of my biggest triggers involve surrounding myself with people who do not have good energy in my opinion. This may be old friends, work colleagues or even ex flings/boyfriends. Self-preservation is important to me so I no longer willingly put myself in positions to be negatively affected by people who bring nothing to my life.